When you’re a parent, there’s no easy way to make sure your children are comfortable sharing stories of abuse, so they don’t end up sharing them in a public forum.
And because incest stories are typically shared through social media, they’re often not shared in a private space, which can lead to negative outcomes.
The problem is compounded when it comes to sharing stories with friends and family members.
We recently had a conversation about the risks of sharing incest stories online with a family member, who shared that she’s always worried her friends will find out that her family members are having incest stories shared.
The question she asked was, “How can I protect my children?”
“There’s nothing you can do about it,” she said.
“If they have it, they can see it.”
She said she also doesn’t want her children sharing incest, but she worries it might happen because of how social media is used.
“The internet is the safest place for a child to share,” she explained.
“It’s just a matter of finding a way to avoid it.”
So how can you avoid sharing incest with friends, family members, and strangers?
“I think the easiest way is to not do it,” explained Emily.
“I would never share it in a room with my friends.
I would never do it in my car.
I wouldn’t do it at home.
And I would probably never share with anyone in the real world.”
So what should parents do?
There are a couple of ways to avoid sharing a story online.
You can be more specific.
Emily shared a story from her childhood about being sexually abused by her father.
“My dad was very strict with me.
He told me to always be quiet and always be nice to him.
He was very controlling,” she told TechCrunch.
“So it wasn’t really something I really cared about.
I really only cared about being good and not hurting him.”
Emily’s story is a great example of how sharing stories online can help protect your children, and how there’s nothing wrong with sharing them with friends.
The best way to do that is to be more precise.
Emily explained, “I was really focused on keeping myself and my friends safe, but when my dad was really abusive, it was just really hard to keep myself from crying.
I had to keep quiet and not be embarrassed about it.
It was really hard for me.”
When you share a story with your friends, they might find out about it, and then they can share it, too.
But if they share it with strangers, it’s a different story.
“You can always tell them that it’s not a safe thing to share with strangers.
And they can make sure it’s safe to share it,” Emily said.
That’s because sharing is one of the most powerful ways to help keep people safe online.
“But if you share it too broadly, people are going to find out,” Emily continued.
“And then you can have a panic attack.”
So do share more.
But Emily’s advice for sharing with your children is to make your story more specific and include more details, like what you did or who you were with when you were abused.
You might want to include photos or videos to help people figure out what happened.
“What you should do is make it as detailed as possible.
It doesn’t have to be just you telling your story,” Emily explained.
If you’re not sure how to share a video, Emily recommends sharing it on Instagram or Twitter.
“That’s the only way I can get it out to as many people as possible,” she added.
Emily also said it’s important to keep a list of who you’re sharing with.
If the family members you’re with share a version of the story, they have a better chance of knowing if it’s OK to share.
“Just be mindful that sharing that to someone else who’s not your friends or family is really bad for your reputation,” Emily suggested.
If your story is shared with family and friends, you can always share it back to them.
“Once it’s shared, you should let them know,” Emily advised.
“They should know about it.”